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Why? Most folks’ initial responses are impulsive, emotional, subjective and void of thought. But, you already knew that, didn’t you?
That old ‘Count to ten’ rule, isn’t a bad idea at all. A ‘Ninety-minute Rule’ is an even better one. Why? Well, there are two good reasons.
First, you may not have all the facts or the big picture. Taking a step back from the situation will give you a better perspective and your perception may change.
Secondly, if the situation angered you, ninety minutes will allow the blood to return to your brain’s centers of logic.
When anyone gets angry, blood rushes away from the brain to the vital organs. This is nature’s way of ensuring survival.
Unfortunately, when the blood leaves the brain, your rational, logical thought also leaves. This is the worst time to engage your mouth. Many folks have made the best speech they will ever regret when they are the most angry. Can you relate to that?
It takes most folks a full ninety minutes to recover from full- blown anger. Why chance it? Even if you were just a little bit angry, give yourself enough time to be able to form full sentences that are coherent!
Obviously, there are times when you simply must take control of a crisis. Knowing now why you may not be at your best at that moment, speak only as much as damage control requires. Refrain from being sarcastic, judgmental or rude.
Simply do as little as you can while managing the situation. Then, retreat. The more you exercise control over your negative outbursts and knee- jerk reactions to people or issues, the more you present yourself as mature, controlled and in control of your impulsive behaviors. Oh, yes, and, you’ll spend far less time making apologies, too
About Roberta Shaler, PhD
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, speaks, coaches & conducts seminars for organizations who want to motivate their people, and for individuals who want to achieve their dreams. Hear her weekly Living Richly program on www.WSRadio.com For further articles, free ezines, upcoming teleseminars and booking information, visit her site today.