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Oprah’s message has been clear almost since the beginning of her show — 25 years ago: “Accept yourself for who you are and believe that you can do what you want to do — live your Best Life.”
Lady Gaga’s message may not have always been as clear, but in her latest albums and interviews she seems to be sending a similar message: “Be yourself and don’t let others put you down or discourage you — even if you’re different.”
They may use different words but the message is clear: “Believe in Yourself — and be yourself.” It seems like common sense: If you don’t believe in yourself — why would anyone else believe in you? But sometimes when it comes to “self” we forget about common sense and listen to our inner voice – the negative one. We doubt our ability, or are ashamed of something that we did or something that happened to us in our past.
Going into an interview with baggage from the past is like dragging a big black garbage bag along behind you and parking it next to your chair during the interview. And it is going to “stink” up the room after a while.
Nobody wants to hear about your problems and baggage. Some people’s lives begin to sound like a Soap Opera there have been so many extenuating circumstances. And, some people feel compelled to share every detail with the interviewer. Big Mistake!
The best advice is to let go of those negative feelings and move on. I know it’s easier said then done. But until you resolve the issues with yourself — through one form of exorcism or another — you will carry around your bag of garbage. A good interviewer can feel hostility the minute it walks in the door.
Here are five rules to encourage Optimism and discourage Negativity:
Keeping upbeat is a part of your job right now. When you begin to give into the dark side you will project that to others. You want to stay as upbeat as possible, particularly while interviewing. Bringing confidence and energy to the interview are the two most important ingredients to connecting with the interviewer.
The message of the two famous women, as well as the messages of many other people who teach self-esteem or life lessons, tell us that it is up to us to take charge and heal those old wounds and start accepting and believing in ourselves. Only then can others believe in us. Believing in yourself will boost your self-esteem and in turn you will have higher confidence. And, the key ingredients for a successful job interview are — you got it — “self-esteem and confidence.”
What method do you use to stay upbeat in difficult times? What helps you get through life when life turns against you?